Over the last month I have had numerous members reach out with questions about cords and cord cutting. Since it seems to be coming up naturally, I decided it was a good topic to discuss with the community at large.
Let’s start with WHAT ARE ENERGETIC CORDS. Energetic cords are the connections we create between ourselves and other people. The more intense and longer the connection, the more profound the cords. Family we are raised with, friendships, and intimate partnerships are usually where we find our strongest cords.
Energetic cords can be both beneficial and unhealthy. It depends on the energy of the cord. There are cords of love, joy, creativity, trust, comradery, acceptance, loyalty, kindness, grace, appreciation. There are also cords of abuse, bad habits, anger, obsession, betrayal, bullying, victimhood, martyrdom, guilt and shame. Because these connections are made and maintained energetically the person involved does not need to be physically present in your life. They don’t even need to be physically alive for you to still be energetically bound to them. Cord cutting is a simple and effective tool to use on a regular basis to help keep our chosen relationships vital and relinquish those relationships that no longer serve us.
HOW TO CUT CORDS:
Choose a place where you can sit quietly without being disturbed. This is also great to do during an Epsom salt bath. We are going to be using your inner perception which I will call “imagination”. Realize that not everyone is visual. When you imagine you may “feel” things instead of “see” them or just “know” things. However, you perceive within your “mind’s eye” will work just fine.
1. Imagine an empty round room with 2 chairs facing each other. You are sitting in one of the chairs. This room is created for you to do your work within so that there is a distinct energetic place that you can call people into, work with them and then release them. This helps you to have clear energetic boundaries while doing healing work.
2. Call a person into the other chair. You may have a specific person you want to work with in mind (living or dead) or you can ask your Unconscious Mind to call in the person it thinks you need to work with most. The rules of the guest chair are that the other person cannot speak unless you give them permission and they can be dismissed at any time. You are in control.
3. Once you call the person into the other chair ask to perceive the energetic cords between you. There may only be a few or there may be many. They can come from anywhere in you and connect anywhere in them. They can be fat or thin, smooth or twisted. Basically, allow the cords to be what they are and go with it.
You have a choice at this point –
Do you want to prune the cords? This means you want to keep a relationship with the person and just clean up any unhealthy energy between you.
Or do you want to release this relationship completely? This means cutting all the cords energetically and removing this person from your life both energetically and physically.
4. Pruning cords. If you want to clean up a relationship’s cords, then in your mind’s eye you will take your time to “feel” each cord that connects you to this person and decide whether it is a healthy or unhealthy cord. If it’s healthy, leave it. If it is unhealthy, take note of any information that comes to you about what the unhealthy connection is for later use then cut it. Whatever cutting implement comes to mind is the perfect one for that job. Maybe it’s a scalpel or a flaming sword, a machete, dagger or flame thrower. Whatever comes to mind, go with it. Make sure to not only cut the cord on your side but also “feel” around for any roots that may still be in you from the connection point. Heal and fill any energetic “wounds” or “holes” made from removing the cord with your own energy. You are not responsible for the other side of the cord that is connected to them – only your side is your responsibility. Once you’ve cleared any unhealthy cords take a moment to send love, gratitude and life through the healthy cords. If there is anything you want/need to say to this person take a moment to tell them. If you want to give them permission to speak you can do that now. When you are complete release them from the room with blessings. Take a moment once they are gone to check in with the cords you still have with them. You will faintly feel them because you are still connected. With ongoing relationships, it is a good practice to do this type of pruning on a regular basis.
5. Cutting a person out of your life. If you no longer want to be connected to a person energetically then once you perceive the cords between you, you are going to cut all of them. Take your time. Make sure to fill in any voids left by the cord being cut away with your own energy. Be firm energetically as you cut the cords away. You must mean it. At the end you can say whatever you need to them to say goodbye and only if you want, you can allow them to speak. When you release them from the room you are saying goodbye for good! Make it final and clear. Release them completely. It is best if you can let go with true feelings of blessings as that indicates you’ve worked through any deeply charged feelings that can keep us connected. Depending on the intensity of the original bonding you may have to do this more than once. Each time the cords will be fainter and easier to release.
6. Aftercare! In many ways this is the most important part. When we do this work, we can think that it’s all in our minds. It isn’t. We are all energetic beings and the work you do energetically will be felt by others, even if they aren’t sure what they are feeling. So don’t be surprised if the person you work on in the room reaches out to you in some way in the days following. Sometimes it’s someone you haven’t heard form in years and suddenly they will text 2 days after you do cord cutting. It happens all the time. You need to act accordingly. Meaning you must align your words and actions in the 3-D world with the work you did in your round room.
If you cut someone out of your life then you need to block their number, lose their address and throw out anything that still has an emotional charge for you. If you have photos of them that don’t mean anything to you, fine but if every time you look at that necklace, they gave you and feel a tug then get rid of it. It’s all about the emotional/energetic charge. If you entertain communication with them on any level, then you are starting up the cords again. You must be clear energetically and physically and cut the connection.
If you did some pruning and became aware of certain unhealthy patterns that you cut away eg bad boundaries or needing to be right or feeling less than – make a concerted effort to engage differently with this person now. Create new, healthier cords with them. This will help build strong energetic ties and more respectful, loving behaviors in your relationship.
NOTE: All of this work is done by you. None of this is dependent on someone else changing or you even mentioning the work you are doing. This is about you taking responsibility for the energies you are choosing, maintaining and enforcing physically through word and deed.
I’ve used cord cutting personally and professionally to help others for decades now and it may seem simple, but it is highly effective. As the spring energies of March are on the rise, this is a perfect time for some pruning or cutting away of the old and allowing new growth, connection and prosperity into your energies and relationships.
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